This happened while doing day game with Ken and this other guy I had met the previous night through a mutual friend (also community). Ken and I were near a light, and I saw her walk up and wait for it to change. She was on her phone.
I went up and said “hey excuse me” loudly to get her attention, and when I had it I said “you looked potentially interesting, so I thought I’d say hi”. Got a positive reaction. Focus, Relevance, Emotion.
Initial couple sentences were establishing where she was from, and when she said “New Zealand” I said “you don’t have to hide your accent”, a little tease.
Walked with her across the street. She asked me questions most of the time. When I said I was in tech she said “oh that’s a smart person industry”. Said something similar about the fact that I was going to go to grad school. Small getting to know you kind of stuff.
After a bit, she said “where are you going?” I planted and she also planted. She’s here for a few more weeks, I said we should grab a drink. Number closed. We texted a bit.
My goals for the day were just to do 2 solid approaches, and I did 4 and got a number quite smoothly. Definitely happy with today’s progress.
Goal tonight was simple: ask for 3 numbers. This was my goal because of my problems last weekend where I led a couple good opportunities slip by because asking for numbers isn’t enough of an ingrained habit for me.
First set I opened were two Brazilians, one of whom was visiting the other and didn’t speak much English. Boring set. FB Messenger closed the visiting one. 1 number asked (if she had a working American phone and spoke English, I wouldn’t count this as a number, but it suffices).
Met up with my wing, K. He goes in on a big group, I go do a two set that doesn’t quite hook. Come back to his set, and it implodes shortly thereafter.
I think the next thing is this two set I open. One mistake I potentially made here was only hitting the “FR” of Todd’s FRED model. My opener was basically a comment about how I liked how one of the girl was wearing her jacket on her shoulders classy-like even though it was a leather jacket. This was followed by some banter about how they match a lot, and then further banter about their similar names. Then Ken came in and engaged the less attractive one, and I kind of went into rapport with the other. Shouldn’t have gone into rapport. I didn’t have emotional relevance yet.
Just bounced mid “conversation” from this set without saying anything. I try to do that more and more. Look, when girls converse and they aren’t attracted to me, that’s cool–not everyone has to want to fuck everyone. But nowadays, because 90% of the time I get positive reactions and because of my maturing perspective on life, I am starting to realize my own value more, and if they don’t even give me the time of day I think they’re idiots. Also rude.
Anyways, next set I open by saying “You guys look conspiratorial”. Main positives from this one:
- Spontaneous opener.
- Deployed qualifying lines like “I’m glad we found something interesting about you”.
- Maintained good eye contact.
- There were a couple things that came up that may have been shit tests that I didn’t handle great. Insofar as it’s possible to neither fail nor pass a shit test, I did neutral. For example, when it came up where I was going to law school, she made a big deal about congratulating me, even shaking my hand all formally. She wasn’t totally making fun of me or something, and I wasn’t like “O THANKS DURR” (I even said “yeah don’t do that”), but at the same time I was at the effect and not the cause of this part of the interaction.
- Technically it’s bad that I didn’t try to go for my goal of asking for the number since this interaction lasted longer than 4-5 minutes, but when I asked her for her name she didn’t even give that, so…
Last set was moar Brazilians. Asked for and received number even though I wasn’t interested. So I only got 2/3 of the way to my goal. Goal for tomorrow will be to ask for 3 more numbers. I’m just asking for numbers until I have asked for 5.
Not too concerned about not hitting this goal, but have been kicking myself all day for my not pushing the daygame set I opened earlier today.